Now that you’re back… question for you:
Would you rather start something that you know for a fact is bound to end soon, or not start it at all but continue to pine over it?
Good to be back mate 🙂
Thanks for the question, A. (Splendid idea of a series too haha, this should be fun).
I’d like to start with the obvious cons of starting good things that’ll surely end:
- Waste of time
- Getting too attached and not being able to move forward
- What’s the point?
Now that those are out of the way, the first thing that comes to my mind is when I did honours in 2015.
Honours in Australia is basically a pHD squeezed into one year. You have a thesis to prove, you study it, and in the end, you write and present what you’ve learnt from your research. (It was the hardest year of my life. But it was all worth it.)
So in terms of the question, I chose to write a thesis for honours in 2015 and I knew it would (thankfully) end. But as I delved into it, little did I know that I didn’t want it to end. The people I met I was able to work with were amazing. And my life has definitely been impacted for the better because of them. So, I have no regrets starting that.
On the other hand, there are holidays and vacations you take every so often. Now I believe that these are as important as working in a routine, in something you’re (hopefully) passionate about. Just something different from how you live your day to day life.
I’ve recently come back from a trip of a lifetime around Europe with 7 marvellous m8s. Y’know, that trip kids take after they’ve graduated university, or some form of study to reward themselves or to take a break before stepping into adulthood or a new chapter in their life. Granted, we were all at different times of our lives and this was I guess, integral to how our relationships developed and grew over the trip.
Sorry, back to the question haha. I knew this trip was going to end. And I’d like to say I was okay with it from the beginning. (Lemme just relive one of the drunken nights in Barcelona over Sangria…)
I explained to them what I learnt in year/grade 11 english where I studied As You Like It by Shakespeare. It’s about a group of upperclass royals being banished to the forest. They experienced things that they wouldn’t normally in their comfortable hometown. Anyway, even though we weren’t banished from our lands, we still had experiences that weren’t from home. Experiences that couldn’t come from the comfort of our homes. Here comes the English talk: the biggest theme that struck me from this play was that you had to go back to reality. You must. The characters in the play were banished, not knowing what was to come in the forest. But after a bit of time spent there, they knew they had to go back to the kingdom. For most of us anyway, we can’t live off holidays. As amazing as that sounds, I know I’d have to come back at some point. This realisation for people would come all at different times. I bet even people who regularly travel for a living have a break from that and stay at home (lol the opposite, imagine that…). Anyway, it’s important to take a break from your daily routine to physically stand back and step out of it. It’s the best way to remember how lucky and blessed we all are. It’s not about thinking “why can’t I be that guy?” or “someone else has it better than me” or “why do these things happen to me?”. It’s about counting the blessings and being grateful for them. You bring these things back because you learn and become wiser, more knowledgeable than before.
So yes, if there’s something good that you know for a fact won’t last forever, do it. You have other things to ponder over. Carpe diem!
I’d just like to thank A for holding down the fort while I galavanted.
Danke schön! Gracias! Grazie! Dziękuję! Merci!